It’s been awhile since I’ve written about my boy. This is mainly due to his request for me not to. I believe that children deserved to have their privacy respected unless they’re in a position of potentially being in danger then all bets are off. This has allowed us to begin to foster a relationship of mutual respect , a respect that I feel will make for a better parent/child relationship when he’s no longer of rearing age, and keeps me out of Shady Pines in my golden years…hopefully. Today, with his permission I write about his triumph.
As those who have followed me through this his first year in middle school can attest, it’s been a rough one for our boy. Below average grades, home work struggles, and a completely insane mother breathing down his neck at every turn. It’s a wonder he survived. I’m overwhelmingly proud to report that not only did my courageous young man survive…He thrived.
Today he was presented with two awards:
1. A Character award for Perseverance:
“Staying with the task an not giving up”
2. Out Standing Student:
Most Improved-Science (you know…that dammable class he couldn’t wrassle up more than a “D” in?!)
The beauty of it all is the journey he took this year, what he learned about himself, and what I the doubting faithless mother learned about her very capable son. The minute I got him the help he needed and let go…the miracle happened. He found his way. He didn’t need or deserve my screaming, cursing, and other bassackwards “parenting” behaviors. He needed the ability to fail on his own and then figure out how to do it on his own with others simply lighting the way.
I also learned that grades often have very little to do with a child’s progress. My son’s final report card for the year would look like a disappointment in some parents eyes, but for me…well I’ll use this analogy. While I was driving him home from school as he told me about winning the awards. I imagined for a split second his crooked jack-o-latern smile from when he was about 7 years old. Completely imperfect with signs of beautiful growth ahead. Kudos Zion. I love you and am the proudest Mom ever :).
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